Is It Wrong To Move Away From Elderly Parents? My Advice
Ty McDuffey
April 15, 2023
|
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As you start to get older, you may find yourself weighing the pros and cons of moving away from your elderly parents.
Although your thoughts about moving may be driven by job prospects, personal relationships, or the pursuit of a higher quality of life for your children, it may raise ethical concerns regarding adult children's responsibilities to care for their elderly parents.
Is it ethically immoral to leave parents as they reach the end of their lives? What is the responsibility of adult children to their elderly parents?
Feelings of shame for abandoning parents who may or may not rely on you for assistance with daily life tasks are quite prevalent.
But that doesn't mean you have to abandon your idea of relocating; there are methods to overcome this shame by looking at your push and pull elements - what is drawing you to make a move and what may be pulling you away.
This article explores the intricacies of this dilemma, examining the different elements that impact the choice to leave elderly parents and the possible consequences of doing so.
Key Takeaways:
Moving to a new place may be motivated by career prospects, financial considerations, love and marriage, culture and acceptance, quality of life, curiosity, and adventure.
Moving away from elderly parents can cause guilt due to the natural obligation to care for them during their cognitive decline and the loss of day-to-day observation that can be difficult to replace. Unresolved disputes or regrets might also exacerbate feelings of guilt.
Ways to reduce the relocation stress on elderly parents include discussing plans, gathering local resources, making caregiving arrangements, staying in touch, visiting frequently, seeking help from relatives, and using technology to stay connected.
What is Motivating You to Move to a New City, State, or Country?
Moving to a new location may be exciting since it allows you to start over or explore new possibilities.
There are potentially endless reasons why you might be contemplating a relocation.
Professional and career prospects might be compelling reasons for relocating. A new job, school, or internship may be available in certain parts of the country. IT workers, for example, may relocate to Silicon Valley, while fashion designers may choose New York, and actors and producers may choose Los Angeles.
A move may also be motivated by financial considerations, especially if your business can thrive in a new place where the cost of living is reduced.
Love and marriage may also play a role. Long-distance relationships may be tough to sustain if a partner's new job or education requires relocation. Young adults living in small towns may want to explore relocating to places with more suitable bachelors and bachelorettes.
Culture and acceptance may be motivators, particularly if one wishes to live in an ethnically diverse community that is more tolerant of same-sex couples or interracial marriage. Religious beliefs may also play a role in persons relocating to a new place where their religion is not prohibited.
Another factor to consider is the quality of life for raising a family. Relocating to a new city may give a family a better quality of life, such as access to outstanding schools and a safe environment.
Curiosity and adventure may also drive someone to relocate. Being bored with a habit may contribute to unhappiness, and pursuing new experiences might help you break free from that pattern.
Push factors might drive you to move away from home. For example, the sudden closure of a large employer in your area could leave you unemployed, or tension with a former partner or toxic ex might be a reason to put miles between yourself and your current home.
Regardless of your reason, it is important to nail down what is motivating you to move to a new town, state, or country before taking further steps.
Fact: Moving Away from Elderly Parents Can Cause Guilt
Now that you've identified what's attracting and repelling you, it's time to consider what you're feeling and what it means.
Tell yourself: It is natural to feel an obligation and responsibility to care for an elderly parent as an adult child. Moving away during their cognitive decline might seem like leaving them at a time when they need you the most, and the loss of day-to-day observation can be difficult to replace.
Now, ask yourself further: what is causing the shame of leaving elderly parents? Is the emotion justified? What are your options?
It’s true that there is a specific bond with family that cannot be replicated in any other way except in person.
Family gatherings and unexpected visits create memories and bonds that cannot be duplicated from afar. When demanding parents are involved, the stress and pressure of being physically unavailable may be painful, and emotions of bitterness, indifference, and guilt may occur.
Unresolved disputes or regrets might exacerbate feelings of guilt. You may have reservations about leaving unsolved problems with your elderly parents.
Additionally, losing the ability to watch over your aging parents might make you feel terrible about not being able to fully care for them, especially if they remind you of it.
However, keep in mind that your parents may also relocate. Your parents may run into financial difficulties and be compelled to downsize. Many seniors gradually come around to downsizing in their golden years, meaning the distance between you and your parents and your guilty conscience may not be permanent.
Moving away from elderly parents is a difficult choice that is sometimes accompanied by emotions of shame and discomfort. Finding a means to reconcile these feelings is critical to make the best choice for you and your elderly parents.
7 Ways to Reduce the Stress of Your Relocation on Your Elderly Parents
If you are concerned about the well-being of your elderly parents, the following section has some helpful tips. There are many options for minimizing the effect of your relocation on elderly parents and gathering local resources for them before you go.
Discuss Your Plans
Remember, you're making an announcement. You are not requesting permission (if you find this idea difficult, it may be time to take a close look at where your boundaries are). After all, you are an adult.
Still, you want to show your parents common courtesy and respect and give them enough time to prepare for your upcoming move. Tell them what excites you about the move, the advantages of relocating, and how you came to your decision.
Even if you have the best reasons for moving, don't expect your parents to be completely on board right away. They may complain or even try to persuade you not to do it. You could be shocked to learn that they are not more excited for you or as supportive as you hoped.
Don't Promise Anything
You could be tempted to promise a flurry of trips back home before your relocation. Please refrain from doing so! If you don't follow through, your parents will be disappointed.
You never know what will happen when you settle into your new surroundings. You may not have enough vacation time or money to return home.
Instead, tell your parents that you'll contact them to arrange a visit as soon as you've settled down, have a better feel of your job or school schedule, and better understand your financial situation. What you can guarantee are frequent phone or video chat check-ins.
Install and Use Technology Suitable to Your Parent’s Skills
We all know that technology has made global communication better, quicker, and easier than ever before. But, it is only as good as the user.
Set aside some time to sit with your less tech-savvy parents and teach them the correct usage of any device. You may need to get them a smartphone with prepaid data or a tablet so they can interact with you as needed.
Most people are unaware of what it takes to assist elders in adopting new technologies, but some techniques include:
Placing written and visual instructions near the device
Watching them while they practice using the device
Making sure there is someone nearby they can contact if problems arise (a nerdy nephew who can help or even the local Verizon store rep)
Get Local Support to Help Your Parents
If you were performing a lot of caregiving for an older parent, your departure might mean that this responsibility gets passed on to another sibling or family member.
Work out how duties will be allocated in the future and how your parent's needs will be funded to minimize anger or confusion amongst family members.
Communicate Care Requirements
You could have "parent meetings" with your family around twice a year over a couple of wine glasses. Here is where you can iron out and divide caregiving responsibilities, as well as analyze changes in your parents' needs.
If you don't have a sibling, aunt, or uncle to join you at the meeting, you can work with your parents to find another trusted family member or friend or look into hiring a home healthcare provider in your city.
Find More Help
Professional caregivers may help with things like food shopping, cooking, and trips to the doctor.
If you choose a professional service, you should be there when the homecare worker is initially presented to your parent(s), so you can screen them and describe their caring obligations.
Regardless of how far away you are, ensure the agency or caregiver has a direct way to reach you and that you are designated as the emergency contact.
You could also hire a young neighbor to check in on your parents or contact a local handyman who is prepared to fix any issues that arise in your parent's home.
For more help, contact your local Area Council on Aging or aging services group. They tend to emphasize free or low-cost care for severely handicapped, high-need, low-income, and solitary elders.
Costs of Moving Away from an Elderly Parent
Moving away from family, especially elderly parents, may come with various expenses and effects, depending on the distance and kind of relocation.
The greater the distance traveled, the greater the expenses for travel time, planning, and preparation. The expenses and logistical obstacles increase with distance, from a short drive to cross-country or international moves.
Additionally, the distance between you and your elderly parents might come with emotional costs, such as impacting your relationships and the degree of connection you share.
Moving a Few Hours' Drive from Elderly Parents
There will be changes if you relocate within a few hours' drive of your elderly parents. However, this kind of move has the smallest impact on your money and family ties.
Living within a few hours' drive means you can provide emotional and physical care to your elderly parents.
For example, if your trip time is just a couple of hours, it is possible to see your elderly parents every Sunday (or whichever day of the week you are free from job commitments). Keeping a weekly or bi-weekly visiting plan can help you maintain a close relationship and give emotional support to your elderly parents.
If you live 'close-ish,' you are also more likely to assist with medical visits or even post-surgical recovery. And since it requires less traveling from you, the financial cost is less, but the emotional return is tremendous for both you and your parents.
Long-Distance 'Day Trip' to See Elderly Parents
A lengthy distance or full-day drive to elderly parents, as opposed to a couple of hours, is a high-demand situation to find yourself in. If this is an option, it should be carefully considered since it comes with high costs and adjustment difficulties.
Long-distance living strains emotional and financial relationships, presumably restricting visits to holidays and care for elderly parents to emergencies only.
Increases in vehicle upkeep, rising gas prices, potential hotel expenses for overnight stays, and time away from work are examples of monetary costs. Because of the difficulties of living far away, even the best coupon seeker and penny pincher will spend more.
The emotional cost might be even greater. When it comes to spending time with family, birthdays, holidays, and other milestone events are crucial. It can be emotionally exhausting to miss these events and be apart from people you care about and who rely on you.
Plane Tickets to See Elderly Parents
Moving a distance away from elderly parents that requires a plane ticket or a multi-day trip is not recommended in many cases. The high emotional and financial costs could outweigh the benefits of such a change.
The costs of plane travel and time missed from work can quickly add up, causing you to struggle financially and suffer from slowed career growth.
The emotional costs are also great. If your parent has a sudden medical emergency, it's not easy to be by their side immediately if you have to book a flight and spend several days traveling to see them. In the event of rapidly deteriorating health or an accident, you might be too far away to spend time with your parents during their final moments.
If you’re considering moving a distance away from your elderly parents that would require air travel, carefully consider the pros, cons, and emotional and financial burdens that could come with the relocation.
How Can Trustworthy Help?
If you're considering moving away from your elderly parents, Trustworthy is here to help you navigate this difficult decision.
With a wide range of services and resources, Trustworthy can provide you with the support you need to make the best decision for yourself and your family.
Trustworthy offers a wealth of information and resources on caring for elderly parents on our blog. From legal considerations to practical tips on caregiving, our blog is a one-stop shop for all your needs.
Trustworthy can also help you take the necessary steps to ensure that your parents are well taken care of upon your departure.
With Trustworthy, you can upload and share financial and health-related documents with your parents so you’re always prepared to make a legal decision when the situation arises, whether that means finding a new caregiver, moving your parents into a senior living community, or exploring other options.
In conclusion, if you're considering moving away from your elderly parents, Trustworthy is here to help you. With the help of our team of professionals, extensive resources, and a supportive community, you can make the best decision for your family and move forward with confidence and peace of mind.
Sign up for your free 14-day trial today.
Is It Wrong To Move Away From Elderly Parents? My Advice
Ty McDuffey
April 15, 2023
|
As you start to get older, you may find yourself weighing the pros and cons of moving away from your elderly parents.
Although your thoughts about moving may be driven by job prospects, personal relationships, or the pursuit of a higher quality of life for your children, it may raise ethical concerns regarding adult children's responsibilities to care for their elderly parents.
Is it ethically immoral to leave parents as they reach the end of their lives? What is the responsibility of adult children to their elderly parents?
Feelings of shame for abandoning parents who may or may not rely on you for assistance with daily life tasks are quite prevalent.
But that doesn't mean you have to abandon your idea of relocating; there are methods to overcome this shame by looking at your push and pull elements - what is drawing you to make a move and what may be pulling you away.
This article explores the intricacies of this dilemma, examining the different elements that impact the choice to leave elderly parents and the possible consequences of doing so.
Key Takeaways:
Moving to a new place may be motivated by career prospects, financial considerations, love and marriage, culture and acceptance, quality of life, curiosity, and adventure.
Moving away from elderly parents can cause guilt due to the natural obligation to care for them during their cognitive decline and the loss of day-to-day observation that can be difficult to replace. Unresolved disputes or regrets might also exacerbate feelings of guilt.
Ways to reduce the relocation stress on elderly parents include discussing plans, gathering local resources, making caregiving arrangements, staying in touch, visiting frequently, seeking help from relatives, and using technology to stay connected.
What is Motivating You to Move to a New City, State, or Country?
Moving to a new location may be exciting since it allows you to start over or explore new possibilities.
There are potentially endless reasons why you might be contemplating a relocation.
Professional and career prospects might be compelling reasons for relocating. A new job, school, or internship may be available in certain parts of the country. IT workers, for example, may relocate to Silicon Valley, while fashion designers may choose New York, and actors and producers may choose Los Angeles.
A move may also be motivated by financial considerations, especially if your business can thrive in a new place where the cost of living is reduced.
Love and marriage may also play a role. Long-distance relationships may be tough to sustain if a partner's new job or education requires relocation. Young adults living in small towns may want to explore relocating to places with more suitable bachelors and bachelorettes.
Culture and acceptance may be motivators, particularly if one wishes to live in an ethnically diverse community that is more tolerant of same-sex couples or interracial marriage. Religious beliefs may also play a role in persons relocating to a new place where their religion is not prohibited.
Another factor to consider is the quality of life for raising a family. Relocating to a new city may give a family a better quality of life, such as access to outstanding schools and a safe environment.
Curiosity and adventure may also drive someone to relocate. Being bored with a habit may contribute to unhappiness, and pursuing new experiences might help you break free from that pattern.
Push factors might drive you to move away from home. For example, the sudden closure of a large employer in your area could leave you unemployed, or tension with a former partner or toxic ex might be a reason to put miles between yourself and your current home.
Regardless of your reason, it is important to nail down what is motivating you to move to a new town, state, or country before taking further steps.
Fact: Moving Away from Elderly Parents Can Cause Guilt
Now that you've identified what's attracting and repelling you, it's time to consider what you're feeling and what it means.
Tell yourself: It is natural to feel an obligation and responsibility to care for an elderly parent as an adult child. Moving away during their cognitive decline might seem like leaving them at a time when they need you the most, and the loss of day-to-day observation can be difficult to replace.
Now, ask yourself further: what is causing the shame of leaving elderly parents? Is the emotion justified? What are your options?
It’s true that there is a specific bond with family that cannot be replicated in any other way except in person.
Family gatherings and unexpected visits create memories and bonds that cannot be duplicated from afar. When demanding parents are involved, the stress and pressure of being physically unavailable may be painful, and emotions of bitterness, indifference, and guilt may occur.
Unresolved disputes or regrets might exacerbate feelings of guilt. You may have reservations about leaving unsolved problems with your elderly parents.
Additionally, losing the ability to watch over your aging parents might make you feel terrible about not being able to fully care for them, especially if they remind you of it.
However, keep in mind that your parents may also relocate. Your parents may run into financial difficulties and be compelled to downsize. Many seniors gradually come around to downsizing in their golden years, meaning the distance between you and your parents and your guilty conscience may not be permanent.
Moving away from elderly parents is a difficult choice that is sometimes accompanied by emotions of shame and discomfort. Finding a means to reconcile these feelings is critical to make the best choice for you and your elderly parents.
7 Ways to Reduce the Stress of Your Relocation on Your Elderly Parents
If you are concerned about the well-being of your elderly parents, the following section has some helpful tips. There are many options for minimizing the effect of your relocation on elderly parents and gathering local resources for them before you go.
Discuss Your Plans
Remember, you're making an announcement. You are not requesting permission (if you find this idea difficult, it may be time to take a close look at where your boundaries are). After all, you are an adult.
Still, you want to show your parents common courtesy and respect and give them enough time to prepare for your upcoming move. Tell them what excites you about the move, the advantages of relocating, and how you came to your decision.
Even if you have the best reasons for moving, don't expect your parents to be completely on board right away. They may complain or even try to persuade you not to do it. You could be shocked to learn that they are not more excited for you or as supportive as you hoped.
Don't Promise Anything
You could be tempted to promise a flurry of trips back home before your relocation. Please refrain from doing so! If you don't follow through, your parents will be disappointed.
You never know what will happen when you settle into your new surroundings. You may not have enough vacation time or money to return home.
Instead, tell your parents that you'll contact them to arrange a visit as soon as you've settled down, have a better feel of your job or school schedule, and better understand your financial situation. What you can guarantee are frequent phone or video chat check-ins.
Install and Use Technology Suitable to Your Parent’s Skills
We all know that technology has made global communication better, quicker, and easier than ever before. But, it is only as good as the user.
Set aside some time to sit with your less tech-savvy parents and teach them the correct usage of any device. You may need to get them a smartphone with prepaid data or a tablet so they can interact with you as needed.
Most people are unaware of what it takes to assist elders in adopting new technologies, but some techniques include:
Placing written and visual instructions near the device
Watching them while they practice using the device
Making sure there is someone nearby they can contact if problems arise (a nerdy nephew who can help or even the local Verizon store rep)
Get Local Support to Help Your Parents
If you were performing a lot of caregiving for an older parent, your departure might mean that this responsibility gets passed on to another sibling or family member.
Work out how duties will be allocated in the future and how your parent's needs will be funded to minimize anger or confusion amongst family members.
Communicate Care Requirements
You could have "parent meetings" with your family around twice a year over a couple of wine glasses. Here is where you can iron out and divide caregiving responsibilities, as well as analyze changes in your parents' needs.
If you don't have a sibling, aunt, or uncle to join you at the meeting, you can work with your parents to find another trusted family member or friend or look into hiring a home healthcare provider in your city.
Find More Help
Professional caregivers may help with things like food shopping, cooking, and trips to the doctor.
If you choose a professional service, you should be there when the homecare worker is initially presented to your parent(s), so you can screen them and describe their caring obligations.
Regardless of how far away you are, ensure the agency or caregiver has a direct way to reach you and that you are designated as the emergency contact.
You could also hire a young neighbor to check in on your parents or contact a local handyman who is prepared to fix any issues that arise in your parent's home.
For more help, contact your local Area Council on Aging or aging services group. They tend to emphasize free or low-cost care for severely handicapped, high-need, low-income, and solitary elders.
Costs of Moving Away from an Elderly Parent
Moving away from family, especially elderly parents, may come with various expenses and effects, depending on the distance and kind of relocation.
The greater the distance traveled, the greater the expenses for travel time, planning, and preparation. The expenses and logistical obstacles increase with distance, from a short drive to cross-country or international moves.
Additionally, the distance between you and your elderly parents might come with emotional costs, such as impacting your relationships and the degree of connection you share.
Moving a Few Hours' Drive from Elderly Parents
There will be changes if you relocate within a few hours' drive of your elderly parents. However, this kind of move has the smallest impact on your money and family ties.
Living within a few hours' drive means you can provide emotional and physical care to your elderly parents.
For example, if your trip time is just a couple of hours, it is possible to see your elderly parents every Sunday (or whichever day of the week you are free from job commitments). Keeping a weekly or bi-weekly visiting plan can help you maintain a close relationship and give emotional support to your elderly parents.
If you live 'close-ish,' you are also more likely to assist with medical visits or even post-surgical recovery. And since it requires less traveling from you, the financial cost is less, but the emotional return is tremendous for both you and your parents.
Long-Distance 'Day Trip' to See Elderly Parents
A lengthy distance or full-day drive to elderly parents, as opposed to a couple of hours, is a high-demand situation to find yourself in. If this is an option, it should be carefully considered since it comes with high costs and adjustment difficulties.
Long-distance living strains emotional and financial relationships, presumably restricting visits to holidays and care for elderly parents to emergencies only.
Increases in vehicle upkeep, rising gas prices, potential hotel expenses for overnight stays, and time away from work are examples of monetary costs. Because of the difficulties of living far away, even the best coupon seeker and penny pincher will spend more.
The emotional cost might be even greater. When it comes to spending time with family, birthdays, holidays, and other milestone events are crucial. It can be emotionally exhausting to miss these events and be apart from people you care about and who rely on you.
Plane Tickets to See Elderly Parents
Moving a distance away from elderly parents that requires a plane ticket or a multi-day trip is not recommended in many cases. The high emotional and financial costs could outweigh the benefits of such a change.
The costs of plane travel and time missed from work can quickly add up, causing you to struggle financially and suffer from slowed career growth.
The emotional costs are also great. If your parent has a sudden medical emergency, it's not easy to be by their side immediately if you have to book a flight and spend several days traveling to see them. In the event of rapidly deteriorating health or an accident, you might be too far away to spend time with your parents during their final moments.
If you’re considering moving a distance away from your elderly parents that would require air travel, carefully consider the pros, cons, and emotional and financial burdens that could come with the relocation.
How Can Trustworthy Help?
If you're considering moving away from your elderly parents, Trustworthy is here to help you navigate this difficult decision.
With a wide range of services and resources, Trustworthy can provide you with the support you need to make the best decision for yourself and your family.
Trustworthy offers a wealth of information and resources on caring for elderly parents on our blog. From legal considerations to practical tips on caregiving, our blog is a one-stop shop for all your needs.
Trustworthy can also help you take the necessary steps to ensure that your parents are well taken care of upon your departure.
With Trustworthy, you can upload and share financial and health-related documents with your parents so you’re always prepared to make a legal decision when the situation arises, whether that means finding a new caregiver, moving your parents into a senior living community, or exploring other options.
In conclusion, if you're considering moving away from your elderly parents, Trustworthy is here to help you. With the help of our team of professionals, extensive resources, and a supportive community, you can make the best decision for your family and move forward with confidence and peace of mind.
Sign up for your free 14-day trial today.
Is It Wrong To Move Away From Elderly Parents? My Advice
Ty McDuffey
April 15, 2023
|
The intelligent digital vault for families
Trustworthy protects and optimizes important family information so you can save time, money, and enjoy peace of mind
As you start to get older, you may find yourself weighing the pros and cons of moving away from your elderly parents.
Although your thoughts about moving may be driven by job prospects, personal relationships, or the pursuit of a higher quality of life for your children, it may raise ethical concerns regarding adult children's responsibilities to care for their elderly parents.
Is it ethically immoral to leave parents as they reach the end of their lives? What is the responsibility of adult children to their elderly parents?
Feelings of shame for abandoning parents who may or may not rely on you for assistance with daily life tasks are quite prevalent.
But that doesn't mean you have to abandon your idea of relocating; there are methods to overcome this shame by looking at your push and pull elements - what is drawing you to make a move and what may be pulling you away.
This article explores the intricacies of this dilemma, examining the different elements that impact the choice to leave elderly parents and the possible consequences of doing so.
Key Takeaways:
Moving to a new place may be motivated by career prospects, financial considerations, love and marriage, culture and acceptance, quality of life, curiosity, and adventure.
Moving away from elderly parents can cause guilt due to the natural obligation to care for them during their cognitive decline and the loss of day-to-day observation that can be difficult to replace. Unresolved disputes or regrets might also exacerbate feelings of guilt.
Ways to reduce the relocation stress on elderly parents include discussing plans, gathering local resources, making caregiving arrangements, staying in touch, visiting frequently, seeking help from relatives, and using technology to stay connected.
What is Motivating You to Move to a New City, State, or Country?
Moving to a new location may be exciting since it allows you to start over or explore new possibilities.
There are potentially endless reasons why you might be contemplating a relocation.
Professional and career prospects might be compelling reasons for relocating. A new job, school, or internship may be available in certain parts of the country. IT workers, for example, may relocate to Silicon Valley, while fashion designers may choose New York, and actors and producers may choose Los Angeles.
A move may also be motivated by financial considerations, especially if your business can thrive in a new place where the cost of living is reduced.
Love and marriage may also play a role. Long-distance relationships may be tough to sustain if a partner's new job or education requires relocation. Young adults living in small towns may want to explore relocating to places with more suitable bachelors and bachelorettes.
Culture and acceptance may be motivators, particularly if one wishes to live in an ethnically diverse community that is more tolerant of same-sex couples or interracial marriage. Religious beliefs may also play a role in persons relocating to a new place where their religion is not prohibited.
Another factor to consider is the quality of life for raising a family. Relocating to a new city may give a family a better quality of life, such as access to outstanding schools and a safe environment.
Curiosity and adventure may also drive someone to relocate. Being bored with a habit may contribute to unhappiness, and pursuing new experiences might help you break free from that pattern.
Push factors might drive you to move away from home. For example, the sudden closure of a large employer in your area could leave you unemployed, or tension with a former partner or toxic ex might be a reason to put miles between yourself and your current home.
Regardless of your reason, it is important to nail down what is motivating you to move to a new town, state, or country before taking further steps.
Fact: Moving Away from Elderly Parents Can Cause Guilt
Now that you've identified what's attracting and repelling you, it's time to consider what you're feeling and what it means.
Tell yourself: It is natural to feel an obligation and responsibility to care for an elderly parent as an adult child. Moving away during their cognitive decline might seem like leaving them at a time when they need you the most, and the loss of day-to-day observation can be difficult to replace.
Now, ask yourself further: what is causing the shame of leaving elderly parents? Is the emotion justified? What are your options?
It’s true that there is a specific bond with family that cannot be replicated in any other way except in person.
Family gatherings and unexpected visits create memories and bonds that cannot be duplicated from afar. When demanding parents are involved, the stress and pressure of being physically unavailable may be painful, and emotions of bitterness, indifference, and guilt may occur.
Unresolved disputes or regrets might exacerbate feelings of guilt. You may have reservations about leaving unsolved problems with your elderly parents.
Additionally, losing the ability to watch over your aging parents might make you feel terrible about not being able to fully care for them, especially if they remind you of it.
However, keep in mind that your parents may also relocate. Your parents may run into financial difficulties and be compelled to downsize. Many seniors gradually come around to downsizing in their golden years, meaning the distance between you and your parents and your guilty conscience may not be permanent.
Moving away from elderly parents is a difficult choice that is sometimes accompanied by emotions of shame and discomfort. Finding a means to reconcile these feelings is critical to make the best choice for you and your elderly parents.
7 Ways to Reduce the Stress of Your Relocation on Your Elderly Parents
If you are concerned about the well-being of your elderly parents, the following section has some helpful tips. There are many options for minimizing the effect of your relocation on elderly parents and gathering local resources for them before you go.
Discuss Your Plans
Remember, you're making an announcement. You are not requesting permission (if you find this idea difficult, it may be time to take a close look at where your boundaries are). After all, you are an adult.
Still, you want to show your parents common courtesy and respect and give them enough time to prepare for your upcoming move. Tell them what excites you about the move, the advantages of relocating, and how you came to your decision.
Even if you have the best reasons for moving, don't expect your parents to be completely on board right away. They may complain or even try to persuade you not to do it. You could be shocked to learn that they are not more excited for you or as supportive as you hoped.
Don't Promise Anything
You could be tempted to promise a flurry of trips back home before your relocation. Please refrain from doing so! If you don't follow through, your parents will be disappointed.
You never know what will happen when you settle into your new surroundings. You may not have enough vacation time or money to return home.
Instead, tell your parents that you'll contact them to arrange a visit as soon as you've settled down, have a better feel of your job or school schedule, and better understand your financial situation. What you can guarantee are frequent phone or video chat check-ins.
Install and Use Technology Suitable to Your Parent’s Skills
We all know that technology has made global communication better, quicker, and easier than ever before. But, it is only as good as the user.
Set aside some time to sit with your less tech-savvy parents and teach them the correct usage of any device. You may need to get them a smartphone with prepaid data or a tablet so they can interact with you as needed.
Most people are unaware of what it takes to assist elders in adopting new technologies, but some techniques include:
Placing written and visual instructions near the device
Watching them while they practice using the device
Making sure there is someone nearby they can contact if problems arise (a nerdy nephew who can help or even the local Verizon store rep)
Get Local Support to Help Your Parents
If you were performing a lot of caregiving for an older parent, your departure might mean that this responsibility gets passed on to another sibling or family member.
Work out how duties will be allocated in the future and how your parent's needs will be funded to minimize anger or confusion amongst family members.
Communicate Care Requirements
You could have "parent meetings" with your family around twice a year over a couple of wine glasses. Here is where you can iron out and divide caregiving responsibilities, as well as analyze changes in your parents' needs.
If you don't have a sibling, aunt, or uncle to join you at the meeting, you can work with your parents to find another trusted family member or friend or look into hiring a home healthcare provider in your city.
Find More Help
Professional caregivers may help with things like food shopping, cooking, and trips to the doctor.
If you choose a professional service, you should be there when the homecare worker is initially presented to your parent(s), so you can screen them and describe their caring obligations.
Regardless of how far away you are, ensure the agency or caregiver has a direct way to reach you and that you are designated as the emergency contact.
You could also hire a young neighbor to check in on your parents or contact a local handyman who is prepared to fix any issues that arise in your parent's home.
For more help, contact your local Area Council on Aging or aging services group. They tend to emphasize free or low-cost care for severely handicapped, high-need, low-income, and solitary elders.
Costs of Moving Away from an Elderly Parent
Moving away from family, especially elderly parents, may come with various expenses and effects, depending on the distance and kind of relocation.
The greater the distance traveled, the greater the expenses for travel time, planning, and preparation. The expenses and logistical obstacles increase with distance, from a short drive to cross-country or international moves.
Additionally, the distance between you and your elderly parents might come with emotional costs, such as impacting your relationships and the degree of connection you share.
Moving a Few Hours' Drive from Elderly Parents
There will be changes if you relocate within a few hours' drive of your elderly parents. However, this kind of move has the smallest impact on your money and family ties.
Living within a few hours' drive means you can provide emotional and physical care to your elderly parents.
For example, if your trip time is just a couple of hours, it is possible to see your elderly parents every Sunday (or whichever day of the week you are free from job commitments). Keeping a weekly or bi-weekly visiting plan can help you maintain a close relationship and give emotional support to your elderly parents.
If you live 'close-ish,' you are also more likely to assist with medical visits or even post-surgical recovery. And since it requires less traveling from you, the financial cost is less, but the emotional return is tremendous for both you and your parents.
Long-Distance 'Day Trip' to See Elderly Parents
A lengthy distance or full-day drive to elderly parents, as opposed to a couple of hours, is a high-demand situation to find yourself in. If this is an option, it should be carefully considered since it comes with high costs and adjustment difficulties.
Long-distance living strains emotional and financial relationships, presumably restricting visits to holidays and care for elderly parents to emergencies only.
Increases in vehicle upkeep, rising gas prices, potential hotel expenses for overnight stays, and time away from work are examples of monetary costs. Because of the difficulties of living far away, even the best coupon seeker and penny pincher will spend more.
The emotional cost might be even greater. When it comes to spending time with family, birthdays, holidays, and other milestone events are crucial. It can be emotionally exhausting to miss these events and be apart from people you care about and who rely on you.
Plane Tickets to See Elderly Parents
Moving a distance away from elderly parents that requires a plane ticket or a multi-day trip is not recommended in many cases. The high emotional and financial costs could outweigh the benefits of such a change.
The costs of plane travel and time missed from work can quickly add up, causing you to struggle financially and suffer from slowed career growth.
The emotional costs are also great. If your parent has a sudden medical emergency, it's not easy to be by their side immediately if you have to book a flight and spend several days traveling to see them. In the event of rapidly deteriorating health or an accident, you might be too far away to spend time with your parents during their final moments.
If you’re considering moving a distance away from your elderly parents that would require air travel, carefully consider the pros, cons, and emotional and financial burdens that could come with the relocation.
How Can Trustworthy Help?
If you're considering moving away from your elderly parents, Trustworthy is here to help you navigate this difficult decision.
With a wide range of services and resources, Trustworthy can provide you with the support you need to make the best decision for yourself and your family.
Trustworthy offers a wealth of information and resources on caring for elderly parents on our blog. From legal considerations to practical tips on caregiving, our blog is a one-stop shop for all your needs.
Trustworthy can also help you take the necessary steps to ensure that your parents are well taken care of upon your departure.
With Trustworthy, you can upload and share financial and health-related documents with your parents so you’re always prepared to make a legal decision when the situation arises, whether that means finding a new caregiver, moving your parents into a senior living community, or exploring other options.
In conclusion, if you're considering moving away from your elderly parents, Trustworthy is here to help you. With the help of our team of professionals, extensive resources, and a supportive community, you can make the best decision for your family and move forward with confidence and peace of mind.
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Is It Wrong To Move Away From Elderly Parents? My Advice
Ty McDuffey
April 15, 2023
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As you start to get older, you may find yourself weighing the pros and cons of moving away from your elderly parents.
Although your thoughts about moving may be driven by job prospects, personal relationships, or the pursuit of a higher quality of life for your children, it may raise ethical concerns regarding adult children's responsibilities to care for their elderly parents.
Is it ethically immoral to leave parents as they reach the end of their lives? What is the responsibility of adult children to their elderly parents?
Feelings of shame for abandoning parents who may or may not rely on you for assistance with daily life tasks are quite prevalent.
But that doesn't mean you have to abandon your idea of relocating; there are methods to overcome this shame by looking at your push and pull elements - what is drawing you to make a move and what may be pulling you away.
This article explores the intricacies of this dilemma, examining the different elements that impact the choice to leave elderly parents and the possible consequences of doing so.
Key Takeaways:
Moving to a new place may be motivated by career prospects, financial considerations, love and marriage, culture and acceptance, quality of life, curiosity, and adventure.
Moving away from elderly parents can cause guilt due to the natural obligation to care for them during their cognitive decline and the loss of day-to-day observation that can be difficult to replace. Unresolved disputes or regrets might also exacerbate feelings of guilt.
Ways to reduce the relocation stress on elderly parents include discussing plans, gathering local resources, making caregiving arrangements, staying in touch, visiting frequently, seeking help from relatives, and using technology to stay connected.
What is Motivating You to Move to a New City, State, or Country?
Moving to a new location may be exciting since it allows you to start over or explore new possibilities.
There are potentially endless reasons why you might be contemplating a relocation.
Professional and career prospects might be compelling reasons for relocating. A new job, school, or internship may be available in certain parts of the country. IT workers, for example, may relocate to Silicon Valley, while fashion designers may choose New York, and actors and producers may choose Los Angeles.
A move may also be motivated by financial considerations, especially if your business can thrive in a new place where the cost of living is reduced.
Love and marriage may also play a role. Long-distance relationships may be tough to sustain if a partner's new job or education requires relocation. Young adults living in small towns may want to explore relocating to places with more suitable bachelors and bachelorettes.
Culture and acceptance may be motivators, particularly if one wishes to live in an ethnically diverse community that is more tolerant of same-sex couples or interracial marriage. Religious beliefs may also play a role in persons relocating to a new place where their religion is not prohibited.
Another factor to consider is the quality of life for raising a family. Relocating to a new city may give a family a better quality of life, such as access to outstanding schools and a safe environment.
Curiosity and adventure may also drive someone to relocate. Being bored with a habit may contribute to unhappiness, and pursuing new experiences might help you break free from that pattern.
Push factors might drive you to move away from home. For example, the sudden closure of a large employer in your area could leave you unemployed, or tension with a former partner or toxic ex might be a reason to put miles between yourself and your current home.
Regardless of your reason, it is important to nail down what is motivating you to move to a new town, state, or country before taking further steps.
Fact: Moving Away from Elderly Parents Can Cause Guilt
Now that you've identified what's attracting and repelling you, it's time to consider what you're feeling and what it means.
Tell yourself: It is natural to feel an obligation and responsibility to care for an elderly parent as an adult child. Moving away during their cognitive decline might seem like leaving them at a time when they need you the most, and the loss of day-to-day observation can be difficult to replace.
Now, ask yourself further: what is causing the shame of leaving elderly parents? Is the emotion justified? What are your options?
It’s true that there is a specific bond with family that cannot be replicated in any other way except in person.
Family gatherings and unexpected visits create memories and bonds that cannot be duplicated from afar. When demanding parents are involved, the stress and pressure of being physically unavailable may be painful, and emotions of bitterness, indifference, and guilt may occur.
Unresolved disputes or regrets might exacerbate feelings of guilt. You may have reservations about leaving unsolved problems with your elderly parents.
Additionally, losing the ability to watch over your aging parents might make you feel terrible about not being able to fully care for them, especially if they remind you of it.
However, keep in mind that your parents may also relocate. Your parents may run into financial difficulties and be compelled to downsize. Many seniors gradually come around to downsizing in their golden years, meaning the distance between you and your parents and your guilty conscience may not be permanent.
Moving away from elderly parents is a difficult choice that is sometimes accompanied by emotions of shame and discomfort. Finding a means to reconcile these feelings is critical to make the best choice for you and your elderly parents.
7 Ways to Reduce the Stress of Your Relocation on Your Elderly Parents
If you are concerned about the well-being of your elderly parents, the following section has some helpful tips. There are many options for minimizing the effect of your relocation on elderly parents and gathering local resources for them before you go.
Discuss Your Plans
Remember, you're making an announcement. You are not requesting permission (if you find this idea difficult, it may be time to take a close look at where your boundaries are). After all, you are an adult.
Still, you want to show your parents common courtesy and respect and give them enough time to prepare for your upcoming move. Tell them what excites you about the move, the advantages of relocating, and how you came to your decision.
Even if you have the best reasons for moving, don't expect your parents to be completely on board right away. They may complain or even try to persuade you not to do it. You could be shocked to learn that they are not more excited for you or as supportive as you hoped.
Don't Promise Anything
You could be tempted to promise a flurry of trips back home before your relocation. Please refrain from doing so! If you don't follow through, your parents will be disappointed.
You never know what will happen when you settle into your new surroundings. You may not have enough vacation time or money to return home.
Instead, tell your parents that you'll contact them to arrange a visit as soon as you've settled down, have a better feel of your job or school schedule, and better understand your financial situation. What you can guarantee are frequent phone or video chat check-ins.
Install and Use Technology Suitable to Your Parent’s Skills
We all know that technology has made global communication better, quicker, and easier than ever before. But, it is only as good as the user.
Set aside some time to sit with your less tech-savvy parents and teach them the correct usage of any device. You may need to get them a smartphone with prepaid data or a tablet so they can interact with you as needed.
Most people are unaware of what it takes to assist elders in adopting new technologies, but some techniques include:
Placing written and visual instructions near the device
Watching them while they practice using the device
Making sure there is someone nearby they can contact if problems arise (a nerdy nephew who can help or even the local Verizon store rep)
Get Local Support to Help Your Parents
If you were performing a lot of caregiving for an older parent, your departure might mean that this responsibility gets passed on to another sibling or family member.
Work out how duties will be allocated in the future and how your parent's needs will be funded to minimize anger or confusion amongst family members.
Communicate Care Requirements
You could have "parent meetings" with your family around twice a year over a couple of wine glasses. Here is where you can iron out and divide caregiving responsibilities, as well as analyze changes in your parents' needs.
If you don't have a sibling, aunt, or uncle to join you at the meeting, you can work with your parents to find another trusted family member or friend or look into hiring a home healthcare provider in your city.
Find More Help
Professional caregivers may help with things like food shopping, cooking, and trips to the doctor.
If you choose a professional service, you should be there when the homecare worker is initially presented to your parent(s), so you can screen them and describe their caring obligations.
Regardless of how far away you are, ensure the agency or caregiver has a direct way to reach you and that you are designated as the emergency contact.
You could also hire a young neighbor to check in on your parents or contact a local handyman who is prepared to fix any issues that arise in your parent's home.
For more help, contact your local Area Council on Aging or aging services group. They tend to emphasize free or low-cost care for severely handicapped, high-need, low-income, and solitary elders.
Costs of Moving Away from an Elderly Parent
Moving away from family, especially elderly parents, may come with various expenses and effects, depending on the distance and kind of relocation.
The greater the distance traveled, the greater the expenses for travel time, planning, and preparation. The expenses and logistical obstacles increase with distance, from a short drive to cross-country or international moves.
Additionally, the distance between you and your elderly parents might come with emotional costs, such as impacting your relationships and the degree of connection you share.
Moving a Few Hours' Drive from Elderly Parents
There will be changes if you relocate within a few hours' drive of your elderly parents. However, this kind of move has the smallest impact on your money and family ties.
Living within a few hours' drive means you can provide emotional and physical care to your elderly parents.
For example, if your trip time is just a couple of hours, it is possible to see your elderly parents every Sunday (or whichever day of the week you are free from job commitments). Keeping a weekly or bi-weekly visiting plan can help you maintain a close relationship and give emotional support to your elderly parents.
If you live 'close-ish,' you are also more likely to assist with medical visits or even post-surgical recovery. And since it requires less traveling from you, the financial cost is less, but the emotional return is tremendous for both you and your parents.
Long-Distance 'Day Trip' to See Elderly Parents
A lengthy distance or full-day drive to elderly parents, as opposed to a couple of hours, is a high-demand situation to find yourself in. If this is an option, it should be carefully considered since it comes with high costs and adjustment difficulties.
Long-distance living strains emotional and financial relationships, presumably restricting visits to holidays and care for elderly parents to emergencies only.
Increases in vehicle upkeep, rising gas prices, potential hotel expenses for overnight stays, and time away from work are examples of monetary costs. Because of the difficulties of living far away, even the best coupon seeker and penny pincher will spend more.
The emotional cost might be even greater. When it comes to spending time with family, birthdays, holidays, and other milestone events are crucial. It can be emotionally exhausting to miss these events and be apart from people you care about and who rely on you.
Plane Tickets to See Elderly Parents
Moving a distance away from elderly parents that requires a plane ticket or a multi-day trip is not recommended in many cases. The high emotional and financial costs could outweigh the benefits of such a change.
The costs of plane travel and time missed from work can quickly add up, causing you to struggle financially and suffer from slowed career growth.
The emotional costs are also great. If your parent has a sudden medical emergency, it's not easy to be by their side immediately if you have to book a flight and spend several days traveling to see them. In the event of rapidly deteriorating health or an accident, you might be too far away to spend time with your parents during their final moments.
If you’re considering moving a distance away from your elderly parents that would require air travel, carefully consider the pros, cons, and emotional and financial burdens that could come with the relocation.
How Can Trustworthy Help?
If you're considering moving away from your elderly parents, Trustworthy is here to help you navigate this difficult decision.
With a wide range of services and resources, Trustworthy can provide you with the support you need to make the best decision for yourself and your family.
Trustworthy offers a wealth of information and resources on caring for elderly parents on our blog. From legal considerations to practical tips on caregiving, our blog is a one-stop shop for all your needs.
Trustworthy can also help you take the necessary steps to ensure that your parents are well taken care of upon your departure.
With Trustworthy, you can upload and share financial and health-related documents with your parents so you’re always prepared to make a legal decision when the situation arises, whether that means finding a new caregiver, moving your parents into a senior living community, or exploring other options.
In conclusion, if you're considering moving away from your elderly parents, Trustworthy is here to help you. With the help of our team of professionals, extensive resources, and a supportive community, you can make the best decision for your family and move forward with confidence and peace of mind.
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Apr 15, 2023
Can I Change My Power of Attorney Without A Lawyer?
Can I Change My Power of Attorney Without A Lawyer?
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Apr 15, 2023
Can You Have Two Power of Attorneys? (A Lawyer Answers)
Can You Have Two Power of Attorneys? (A Lawyer Answers)
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Apr 15, 2023
Do Attorneys Keep Copies Of a Will? (4 Things To Know)
Do Attorneys Keep Copies Of a Will? (4 Things To Know)
Apr 15, 2023
Apr 15, 2023
Estate Planning for a Special Needs Child (Complete Guide)
Estate Planning for a Special Needs Child (Complete Guide)
Apr 15, 2023
Apr 15, 2023
Estate Planning For Childless Couples (Complete Guide)
Estate Planning For Childless Couples (Complete Guide)
Apr 15, 2023
Apr 15, 2023
Estate Planning For Elderly Parents (Complete Guide)
Estate Planning For Elderly Parents (Complete Guide)
Apr 15, 2023
Apr 15, 2023
Estate Planning For High Net Worth & Large Estates
Estate Planning For High Net Worth & Large Estates
Apr 15, 2023
Apr 15, 2023
Estate Planning For Irresponsible Children (Complete Guide)
Estate Planning For Irresponsible Children (Complete Guide)
Apr 15, 2023
Apr 15, 2023
How To Get Power of Attorney For Parent With Dementia?
How To Get Power of Attorney For Parent With Dementia?
Apr 15, 2023
Apr 15, 2023
I Lost My Power of Attorney Papers, Now What?
I Lost My Power of Attorney Papers, Now What?
Apr 15, 2023
Apr 15, 2023
Is It Better To Sell or Rent An Inherited House? (Pros & Cons)
Is It Better To Sell or Rent An Inherited House? (Pros & Cons)
Apr 15, 2023
Apr 15, 2023
Is It Wrong To Move Away From Elderly Parents? My Advice
Is It Wrong To Move Away From Elderly Parents? My Advice
Apr 15, 2023
Apr 15, 2023
Moving An Elderly Parent Into Your Home: What To Know
Moving An Elderly Parent Into Your Home: What To Know
Apr 15, 2023
Apr 15, 2023
Moving An Elderly Parent to Another State: What To Know
Moving An Elderly Parent to Another State: What To Know
Apr 15, 2023
Apr 15, 2023
What If Witnesses To A Will Cannot Be Found? A Lawyer Answers
What If Witnesses To A Will Cannot Be Found? A Lawyer Answers
Apr 15, 2023
Apr 15, 2023
What To Bring To Estate Planning Meeting (Checklist)
What To Bring To Estate Planning Meeting (Checklist)
Apr 15, 2023
Apr 15, 2023
When Should You Get An Estate Plan? (According To A Lawyer)
When Should You Get An Estate Plan? (According To A Lawyer)
Apr 15, 2023
Apr 15, 2023
Which Sibling Should Take Care of Elderly Parents?
Which Sibling Should Take Care of Elderly Parents?
Apr 15, 2023
Apr 15, 2023
Who Can Override A Power of Attorney? (A Lawyer Answers)
Who Can Override A Power of Attorney? (A Lawyer Answers)
Apr 15, 2023
Apr 15, 2023
Can Power of Attorney Sell Property Before Death?
Can Power of Attorney Sell Property Before Death?
Apr 15, 2023
Apr 15, 2023
Can The Executor Of A Will Access Bank Accounts? (Yes, Here's How)
Can The Executor Of A Will Access Bank Accounts? (Yes, Here's How)
Apr 15, 2023
Apr 15, 2023
Complete List of Things To Do For Elderly Parents (Checklist)
Complete List of Things To Do For Elderly Parents (Checklist)
Apr 15, 2023
Apr 15, 2023
How To Get Power of Attorney For A Deceased Person?
How To Get Power of Attorney For A Deceased Person?
Apr 15, 2023
Apr 15, 2023
How To Help Elderly Parents From A Distance? 7 Tips
How To Help Elderly Parents From A Distance? 7 Tips
Apr 15, 2023
Apr 15, 2023
Legal Documents For Elderly Parents: Checklist
Legal Documents For Elderly Parents: Checklist
Apr 15, 2023
Apr 15, 2023
Selling Elderly Parents Home: How To Do It + Mistakes To Avoid
Selling Elderly Parents Home: How To Do It + Mistakes To Avoid
Apr 15, 2023
Apr 15, 2023
What To Do When A Sibling Is Manipulating Elderly Parents
What To Do When A Sibling Is Manipulating Elderly Parents
Apr 6, 2023
Apr 6, 2023
Can An Out of State Attorney Write My Will? (A Lawyer Answers)
Can An Out of State Attorney Write My Will? (A Lawyer Answers)
Mar 15, 2023
Mar 15, 2023
Settling an Estate: A Step-by-Step Guide
Settling an Estate: A Step-by-Step Guide
Feb 10, 2023
Feb 10, 2023
My Deceased Husband Received A Check In The Mail (4 Steps To Take)
My Deceased Husband Received A Check In The Mail (4 Steps To Take)
Feb 7, 2023
Feb 7, 2023
The Benefits of Working With an Experienced Estate Planning Attorney
The Benefits of Working With an Experienced Estate Planning Attorney
Feb 6, 2023
Feb 6, 2023
How To Track Elderly Parents' Phone (2 Options)
How To Track Elderly Parents' Phone (2 Options)
Feb 1, 2023
Feb 1, 2023
Can You Collect Your Parents' Social Security When They Die?
Can You Collect Your Parents' Social Security When They Die?
Feb 1, 2023
Feb 1, 2023
How Do I Stop VA Benefits When Someone Dies (Simple Guide)
How Do I Stop VA Benefits When Someone Dies (Simple Guide)
Feb 1, 2023
Feb 1, 2023
Can You Pay Money Into A Deceased Person's Bank Account?
Can You Pay Money Into A Deceased Person's Bank Account?
Feb 1, 2023
Feb 1, 2023
Deleting A Facebook Account When Someone Dies (Step by Step)
Deleting A Facebook Account When Someone Dies (Step by Step)
Feb 1, 2023
Feb 1, 2023
Does The DMV Know When Someone Dies?
Does The DMV Know When Someone Dies?
Feb 1, 2023
Feb 1, 2023
How To Find A Deceased Person's Lawyer (5 Ways)
How To Find A Deceased Person's Lawyer (5 Ways)
Feb 1, 2023
Feb 1, 2023
How To Plan A Celebration Of Life (10 Steps With Examples)
How To Plan A Celebration Of Life (10 Steps With Examples)
Feb 1, 2023
Feb 1, 2023
How To Stop Mail Of A Deceased Person? A Simple Guide
How To Stop Mail Of A Deceased Person? A Simple Guide
Feb 1, 2023
Feb 1, 2023
How to Stop Social Security Direct Deposit After Death
How to Stop Social Security Direct Deposit After Death
Feb 1, 2023
Feb 1, 2023
How To Transfer Firearms From A Deceased Person (3 Steps)
How To Transfer Firearms From A Deceased Person (3 Steps)
Feb 1, 2023
Feb 1, 2023
How To Write An Obituary (5 Steps With Examples)
How To Write An Obituary (5 Steps With Examples)
Feb 1, 2023
Feb 1, 2023
What Happens To A Leased Vehicle When Someone Dies?
What Happens To A Leased Vehicle When Someone Dies?
Jan 31, 2023
Jan 31, 2023
Do Wills Expire? 6 Things To Know
Do Wills Expire? 6 Things To Know
Jan 31, 2023
Jan 31, 2023
How To Get Into a Deceased Person's Computer (Microsoft & Apple)
How To Get Into a Deceased Person's Computer (Microsoft & Apple)
Jan 31, 2023
Jan 31, 2023
Why Do Funeral Homes Take Fingerprints of the Deceased?
Why Do Funeral Homes Take Fingerprints of the Deceased?
Jan 31, 2023
Jan 31, 2023
What To Do If Your Deceased Parents' Home Is In Foreclosure
What To Do If Your Deceased Parents' Home Is In Foreclosure
Jan 31, 2023
Jan 31, 2023
Questions To Ask An Estate Attorney After Death (Checklist)
Questions To Ask An Estate Attorney After Death (Checklist)
Jan 31, 2023
Jan 31, 2023
What Happens If a Deceased Individual Owes Taxes?
What Happens If a Deceased Individual Owes Taxes?
Jan 31, 2023
Jan 31, 2023
Components of Estate Planning: 6 Things To Consider
Components of Estate Planning: 6 Things To Consider
Jan 22, 2023
Jan 22, 2023
What To Do If Insurance Check Is Made Out To A Deceased Person
What To Do If Insurance Check Is Made Out To A Deceased Person
Jan 8, 2023
Jan 8, 2023
What Does a Typical Estate Plan Include?
What Does a Typical Estate Plan Include?
Apr 15, 2022
Apr 15, 2022
Can I Do A Video Will? (Is It Legitimate & What To Consider)
Can I Do A Video Will? (Is It Legitimate & What To Consider)
Apr 15, 2022
Apr 15, 2022
Estate Planning For Green Card Holders (Complete Guide)
Estate Planning For Green Card Holders (Complete Guide)
Mar 2, 2022
Mar 2, 2022
What Does Your “Property” Mean?
What Does Your “Property” Mean?
Mar 2, 2022
Mar 2, 2022
What is the Uniform Trust Code? What is the Uniform Probate Code?
What is the Uniform Trust Code? What is the Uniform Probate Code?
Mar 2, 2022
Mar 2, 2022
Do You Need to Avoid Probate?
Do You Need to Avoid Probate?
Mar 2, 2022
Mar 2, 2022
How is a Trust Created?
How is a Trust Created?
Mar 2, 2022
Mar 2, 2022
What Are Advance Directives?
What Are Advance Directives?
Mar 2, 2022
Mar 2, 2022
What does a Trustee Do?
What does a Trustee Do?
Mar 2, 2022
Mar 2, 2022
What is an Estate Plan? (And why you need one)
What is an Estate Plan? (And why you need one)
Mar 2, 2022
Mar 2, 2022
What is Probate?
What is Probate?
Mar 2, 2022
Mar 2, 2022
What Is Your Domicile & Why It Matters
What Is Your Domicile & Why It Matters
Mar 2, 2022
Mar 2, 2022
What Is a Power of Attorney for Finances?
What Is a Power of Attorney for Finances?
Mar 1, 2022
Mar 1, 2022
Should your family consider an umbrella insurance policy?
Should your family consider an umbrella insurance policy?
Mar 1, 2022
Mar 1, 2022
Do I need a digital power of attorney?
Do I need a digital power of attorney?
Apr 6, 2020
Apr 6, 2020
What Exactly is a Trust?
What Exactly is a Trust?